So often we take things personal. We personalize other people’s actions and assume what they do to us is personal.
We think and say things like:
“They left me because I wasn’t good enough. ““They didn’t want me because I wasn’t qualified enough. ““He ghosted me.”“He/she didn’t reply to me.”“He/she wasn’t interested in me.”“I got let go.”“I got fired. “
But how often do we ever consider their rejection wasn’t even their choice.
Sometimes people do things and don’t even know why they did what they did but rather God led them to do it and they don’t even realize it themselves.
Maybe that man or woman couldn’t love you correctly the way you wanted because God wouldn’t allow him/her to because it wasn’t His will.
Maybe that company let you go because God knew on your own, you wouldn’t pursue greater.
Maybe that woman/man broke your heart because God needed to lead you to better.
Maybe they did reject you, but maybe God allowed them to reject you because He was redirecting you to something higher.
Maybe he/she did hurt you in the worst way possible but through that pain God was building you up and teaching you to raise your standards and value.
What if them leaving you or letting you go was the revelation that you were settling all along?
What if that pain that nearly broke you was the very thing leading you to God and your purpose?
I can confidently say, if it weren’t for the most painful seasons in my life, I wouldn’t be who I am. I wouldn’t know what I know. I wouldn’t love God the way I do.
If it weren’t for being rejected, tossed to the side, down to nothing, and heartbroken, I may would have never grown.
If it weren’t for finding myself going through deep waters, I may would still be drowning and not even realizing it.
Sometimes I needed that someone or something to break up with me because otherwise I may wouldn’t have done it myself.
Them breaking up with me and rejecting me ultimately redirected me to better avenues.
At the time, I know it doesn’t feel good. It stings, it burns, it’s heavy, and it’s dark. But it’s in those times that create endurance, character, and testimony.
“Sorrow is better than laughter, for sadness has a refining influence on us.”-Ecclesiastes 7:3
When I read that scripture I nearly said “excuse me” in my head and rolled my eyes. But the more I thought about it, it reasoned with me. It is the times when I’m in my worse pain and sadness that growth and blossoming is at its peak. Pain instills me with wisdom that sometimes I can’t grasp when everything is great.
Hang on, I’ve been there and I’m swimming through too. God’s eyes are on us.
JesusChristChangedMyLife because when the world rejects me, He redirects me.
“Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”-Romans 5:3-5